Gossip and sharing of information is big news in prison. Boredom means that much oxygen is wasted on talking about others. My very simple advice though, is treat every other inmate as a potential informer. Only tell them things that you are happy to have spread through the prison and even in some cases passed on to the police. Never, ever repeat anything anyone tells you about another inmate. Don't be that person who repeats something and then it comes back to you... Maybe it was not even true... Even if it is, it is none of your business. Learn to do your own jail and only then will people truly respect you!
Be loving and kind to your family and friends, even when you are really hurting. They are doing time too and lashing out at them could end up backfiring and leaving you completely alone with no support at all. Often you need to be the supporter of your visitors! After all, they came all the way in to prison to see you!
Stand up on your own feet. In the end, the prison system does not always care. You need to self-motivate, stay positive and do good things. This lays a foundation to make life work out for you - even in prison. And if you do this while in prison, when you get out you will have a far greater chance of making a good life for yourself.
In prison it feels like you have very little that you can control. This out-of-control feeling is the basis of much suffering and can cause you to feel like lashing out if left unchecked. No matter how badly you are treated, you do however still have two forms of personal power that no one can take from you:
- Number one, they cannot control the clock. You will eventually get out (unless you are doing actual life in prison, which means you only have one option of personal power).
- Number two, they cannot control what you choose to think - you control your mind, it does not control you - choose good thoughts - they manifest your future! No matter what is going on or being said to you, you can 'choose' to have a positive and motivated internal dialogue at all times. It takes effort, but I can assure you, that this makes jail a far better place to be, and has the added bonus of being a form of prayer, so heaps of good things seemingly randomly appear and bless you, even in jail!